Her kind of goddess

Kalyani is the village goddess. It is said, that her ancestors, the Kashetty’s, are the family that is blessed by the dear goddess Kalyani, who decided to continue to be reborn into the same family forever after. When Kalyani wanted something, the entire village would work towards getting it done. Everyone is permanently at her beck and call. Every year, during the spring, the village holds its annual festival at the village temple, where she blesses her many devotees, and sometimes, performs some stray, well thought out miracles.

On the twelfth day, of the thirteenth full moon, the Kalyani temple of Shabarnath bursts out in an abundance of colors like never seen before. A display of fireworks from all over the world will color the night sky, an arrangement so beautiful, that even the dogs would face their mortal enemies to view it. It seems as if the night is meant simply for the celebration of the goddesses’ blessings in the village, for even the moon and stars begin to shine as bright as the fireworks. Colors as blue as the ocean, as green as the evergreens in the Western Ghats, as red as the rose, and as white as a lily, will adorn the homes in the little village of Shabarnath.  These are the only colors one can see each time the goddess is born, and they are always her favorite.

A large feast with generous meals is served in the temple all week long, with stalls at every corner arranged just like the goddess would like them to be. Performers from all over the country will be brought over for the people’s amusement. No expense would be held back, for it was the pride of the little village.

It is the one night in the year, that all the people will gather together- irrespective of caste and socioeconomic status, to praise the goddess that saved the village from the night terrors that gripped the minds of the men for over a decade before she arrived and cured them. The goddess was so pleased with the gratitude that was shown to her that she decided to reincarnate into the same loving family that provided her with shelter in those dark times.

Back at home, Kalyani creeps out of her room in the middle of the night to look at the fireworks display in the open ground. A beautiful maiden of fifteen, she is the goddess of the village. Everyone loved her, and everyone praised her.  However, something is amiss. She isn’t the goddess. She has never protected anyone. Her mother passed away when she was born, just like her mother’s mother did before her. They would never live to see thirty. Goddesses of the Kashetty family would become pregnant at the age of twenty-five; the same age the goddess was when she came to rescue the village. The goddesses would often be married off to the goddesses’ advisor, who could provide for them and upon their death, marry the woman who would help with the upbringing of the goddess.  An advisor would be groomed from her very birth, to become her husband, and then the father of the future goddess. He was kind, good-looking, and of course, from a rich family that would be able to provide for the goddess’s whims and fancies.

But Kalyani’s father is different. He is good-looking, and from a rich family as well. However, he isn’t the kind-hearted man he seems to be. His sole purpose, or what was taught to him at least, is to work toward maintenance the myth of the goddess’s blood running in the family. That is why her mother had to die. Developments in science meant that young women stood a better chance of survival during childbirth, but that was not the case here.  She knows that she will have to die before the age of twenty-six. That is her fate. She knows the man who will be her husband for nine long years before he marries the woman he really loves. He is big, strong, good-looking, and from a rich family. He is the son of the cousin of her father.

It was his idea for Kalyani to perform the miracles. “Healings” would cure any faith that strayed away. The goddess is, after all, the only way that the family can stay in power, with little or next to no government influence in the village. Every source of power would continue to be in the hands of one family.

The temple festival too is very cunningly organized. The outsiders are given strict orders about communication with the villagers. Any deviations would result “in serious punishment”. This only meant that the person would be pushed into the heart of the jungle nearby, where the tigers roamed free. The rest is history.

Kalyani knows what her fate is, but she also knows that she has the power to change it. She will only have to play the same game that her so called family plays- they, play on the emotions of the villagers.

Kalyani, with her hair out wild, black curls like tiny whiplashes ready to destroy anything that came in her way, eyes the color of cinnamon bark, with skin only a shade lighter, walks through the crowd that she commands, with her very stride singing a song of praise in honor of her ancestors, and the miracles she is due to perform that night.  She walks to her throne in the temple, her father and advisor beside her, and takes her place as soon as the village is struck by the sky’s loud roar.  The people fall to their knees in praise of her, chanting mantras in her holy name. She looks down and sees the thousand people willing to do her bidding. She begins with the traditional demand for gold, silver, and rubies. Then, she goes on to talk about her ancestors, to whom they owed their lives. She has in her, the voice of an angel, with the power of the devil.

Her hair begins to flow with the wind, getting longer with each passing second. Instantaneously, she begins speaking in a tongue, that to the common folk is utterly incomprehensible. The crowd trembles in fear, for they believe that she is displeased with them. She grows taller and taller with each chant, and rises from her throne, with her voice, booming over the winds of the mountains, demanding freedom. Never had such fury been unleashed, never had such fear spread among the people. They hadn’t come across a goddess so powerful since the goddess Kalyani herself.

Never, had freedom been given so willingly, yet fearfully. Never, had she tasted freedom the way she did now.

“That is quite a story you came up with Marsha… I would like to know how the rest of the tale goes. We’ve run out of time today, but how about we pick up the same place we left off next week?” said Talia, closing the file in hand.

Marsha meekly looked down, picked up her bag and walked out of the office.

Talia hadn’t moved. She was marveled by the sheer madness in the eight-year old’s mind.

She fingered the edge of the file at hand, careful to not cut herself over the edges.  She then looked down at the first page in the file that read ‘Marsha Addams.  Diagnosis: Schizophrenia’

 

 

Image source: deviantart.net

 

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Rain rain, don’t go away

The rain has always fascinated me. There were always so many things that you could do with it- fight a pirate, create the perfect atmosphere for a séance, declare your love like dear Mr. Darcy did, put out a merciless fire, try sailing cross the ocean and then land on a random island where you could create your own nation, and even express your sadness, where your warm tears would be washed away by the cold water splashing on your face.

I loved standing on my terrace in the rain, with my arms out wide, spinning in circles as the raindrops fell on my face- it was so much like in the movies I watched. My love for Bangalore rain, however, never went beyond the gate of my building, because beyond it was pure filth. One can never know what animal feces or bits of garbage come along with the rain water that flowed all over the streets that still lack a proper drainage system. Or at least, that’s what mother would say.

Bangalore’s rain brought in cold winds from the Antarctic, and with it, a long bout of the common cold. I never appreciated the cold that I caught with my waltzing in the rain,  but it’s occurrence coinciding with the reopening of school after the summer break led me to secretly believe that school was what I was allergic too- not the rain. After all, it did last long after the rains did, and seemed to come back every time it could. Now that I’m in college, I think it’s the sheer stress of an Indian education that I’m allergic too. After all, I catch a cold a little after college begins, I had the same issue in school as well, and it takes months and months to go away- almost the length of a semester.  However, I couldn’t possibly use this as an excuse, because people haven’t actually died from studying. Yet.

However, it does have some perks. We’ve always had parking issues at home. By that, I mean other people park in front of our gate, and we have no means to take our car onto the road. In order to deal with the problem, we park our Wego in front of the gate. One fine day, when we were on our way back from the evening mass, our car being washed by the rain, my father asked me to move the bike from the gate. The rain wasn’t the problem. The black dress and six-inch heels were. Too afraid to say no, and too proud to look incompetent, I walked out of the car and began moving the bike.  Oh, the stares! Every person who saw me on the street looked at me the same way one would look at a snake charmer in a mall. My dress, six-inch heels, and lipstick did not belong in Bangalore rain. I felt both bold and stupid. Bold, because I could ride in a dress and six-inch heels, and stupid because I was in a dress and six-inch heels. I was one of those studs on the street, all Goth and fancy with my outfit.

The first week of rain would mean the end of summer and the beginning of the new academic year. It meant that I wouldn’t be able to wake up smelling wet grass in the morning, mingling with the scent of hot tea. It meant the end of the fights to sit in front of the “fireplace” in the kitchen, where my aunt would make our morning tea. It meant I wouldn’t have a tank full of hot water to use while I bathed because now I’d actually have to use a tap. Somehow, over the years, the idea of having to bring out hot water from the tank and mix it with cold water in Mangalore means more water than the warm water that comes out the taps in Bangalore. I realize that bathing in Mangalore requires more work, yet I feel like it doesn’t. Coming home meant that I would no longer get to eat hot-hot pez (boiled rice) with chicken sukka (a Mangalorean dish) huddled next to my cousins while it rained outside.

Over the years, I’ve seen the rain go from something pure and absolutely wonderful to something that finds itself in the same place and muck and disgust. Improper drainage systems lead to the flooding of the drains, which in turn causes the water to pour out onto the roads that people walk, drive and ride in. Through all of this, it has become an event that I have come to keep to myself now, enjoying it in more private terms.

What I think stays constant in my relationship with the rain, the one thing that seems to be a near perfect experience, is the sound of the pitter-patter the rain drops make, which lull me to sleep when I’m wrapped in my blanket listening to James Blunt’s Bonfire heart. Warm, comfortable, and in love. That is what the rain is to me.

Papa

When you think of you our grandfather, I know you think of chocolates. You think of sausages, bacon, salami and toasted bread for breakfast, a machine that was attached to his nose thrice a day, with a funny looking white smoke coming out of it, and, you think of our grandmother. Papa was an old man, and he had been old for as long as we remember.

Our visits to Vishakapatanam (Vizag) never lasted more than a week or two, but there was always something new to discover, something new to do. Sometimes, it would be shopping in the one mall in the city, sometimes, it would be eating in the Principal’s chair at our grandmother’s school, and sometimes, it was making sand castles on the beach, with our little, tiny-nailed hands being the only tools we had.

I remember listening to stories of when this old, frail, gray haired man with a golden watch on his wrist, could once carry rations used by a family of five for an entire week. I heard stories of the order he brought home from the British, which eventually led to the English breakfast we has almost every Sunday during our trips to Vizag. You heard these stories too, but you were too busy making paper planes to listen to the adults tell tales.

I remember a secret. Every morning, we run down to our grandparents’ room as fast as our little feet would carry us, my stuffed toy Appu flying in the air, clinging to the end of my fingertips, and your stuffed teddy bear Potlu rushing not far behind. We would slowly creep inside, and jump eagerly for the chocolate twisters that would miraculously emerge from a tiny little box in the cabinet that seemed to have an infinite capacity for our little delights. He would ask us to be as quiet as mice (we never understood the reference because the mice we saw were quite squeaky), and we would whisper till we ate, a little after which things got loud again. We weren’t allowed to have chocolates back then. The twisters were tiny, with two shades of brown. I don’t think we’ve eaten a single one without thinking of him. Do you remember how we were given only one a day, and no more? It was our little secret.

There was this one time, that chocolate bought for him, filled with the sailor’s favourite rum, accidentally found its way into my mouth. Our father reprimanded his father, who ignored him in return.

A couple of years later, in a moment of jest, you would pull dad’s chair as he was about to sit down, and would run behind Papa to have your butt saved. It worked. You would then wink at me, having successfully escaped dad’s wrath, and I would meekly look down, and silently finish my annoyingly healthy tomato soup.

In the years to come, we would watch Papa battling his lung problems, coming home unable to climb up to the first floor, and leaving after a month, fully able of scouting the entire building. In the few moments of weakness we were exposed to, our grandmother, his rock, would tell him that he would live to see a hundred. She never baked for us like grandmothers ought to do, or read out fairytales from our books. Instead, we would listen to stories of the children in her school, and watch her watching over Papa. In Vizag, we would watch her bathing Dickie, their dog, even at the age of 70, and stare him down when he tried messing with her after having decided that he could outsmart her.

Papa is an old Portuguese song that he learned at sea, with a vague tune that sometimes whistles in the wind. He is his own version of The Andrew Sister’s ‘Rum and Coca-cola’.  We never leaned the lyrics to either song, but I know that you cling to the faint tune you remember, because you still think of it in your dreams. You hum in your sleep. Did you know that?

I think we were twelve years old when he passed away. I remember not being able to attend the funeral because we had our exams going on. You didn’t cry the day he died, or the day after that. You didn’t cry, because you simply couldn’t.  Three days later, however, you cried. You cried on the stairs he struggled to climb during his last trip to Bangalore, gripping the railing for support, the same way he did. You cried because you couldn’t cry earlier, and because you didn’t know why you couldn’t. You cried and cried, and then you smiled. I cried with you. Out in the sky, we saw a new star that day. Papa’s star. It shone just for you and me, and seemed like it would always help us find our way home.

When my bones grow weak, my hair turns gray and I fade into oblivion, I hope to shine like Papa’s star, just for you. I wouldn’t want you to be alone. But then again, no one ever leaves, not really.

Chapels and the things Jesus taught me

Matthew 19:14 But Jesus said, “Let the children come to me and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven.”

I’ve never been able to understand the deity who takes attendance every Sunday.

When I was younger, I would eagerly rush to church, almost every chance I could. This I did, for two reasons. The first was so that I could get to play with the few friends that I had in the basketball in the Friary. The second was that one of the Brothers in the Friary would let my friends and I pluck gooseberries from the green, green garden behind the church. On certain momentous occasions, we were also allowed to pet and play with the pets on campus. I sometimes wondered why we never got to see the same pig twice, but then got distracted with the abundance of gooseberries in the little black leather bag that my father had gifted me. Somewhere in my mind, lingered the sweet smell of pork vindaloo. I remember people speaking of a deity, and statues all around, but never actually got around to sitting down and doing a little research. After all, if I did any work, what would I do in the catechism lessons?

At the age of 10, I religiously joined the group of altar servers with my peers. We would fight to see who got to serve for the masses during the coming week. We were, in our opinion, just as important as the priests celebrating mass. We got to carry the chalices and cups containing the unblessed blessed sacrament, and also sang along with the choir. We got to ring the bell during the Eucharistic celebration, and sometimes even got to adjust the fan for the priest preaching at the altar. It also had the added benefit of the red and white outfits that made us look like St. Peter’s assistants.

The first four years that I spent in catechism classes primarily consisted of learning up prayers with words that were either too big, or too complicated for me to understand. I’m both proud and ashamed, about the fact that I still haven’t taken the time to understand the prayers that I religiously chanted for many, many years. Proud, because I don’t want to say something I don’t know about in its entirety. Most prayers came from specific events or occurrences that led to their existence. They meant something back then, but in most cases, have lost their significance. I feel ashamed because I feel like I’ve abandoned the Lord I was taught to love and fear. I’m still not sure about the beliefs I have, and what my religion means to me.

It wasn’t until I’d reached the seventh grade, that I had learned that ‘praying’ simply meant ‘speaking to God’. We were encouraged to come up prayers of our own, and many of us required quite a push to actually articulate our feelings in being frank towards a God we were always told to fear. When I finally got around to doing it, I wasn’t sure if was to pray out of love, devotion, or fear. This came after a year of my catechism teachers from the previous year made us sing hymns of their own, with tunes so jaded, even Lucifer begged for something different.

I listened to priests pray for peace, but they weren’t praying. They were reading out of a pre-prepared paper. Where was the truth in that? I could never tell if they really cared. Did they?

Jesus said that the Kingdom of God belonged to childlike hearts. What do you do when people take away that very heart?

John 13:34: A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.

At the young age of ten, while I struggled to discover the ways of the God I was destined to worship, I was also exposed to the hierarchy within the church. Masses were divided according to the languages popularly spoken by the parishioners, as were the catechism classes. It didn’t take me long to notice the fact that there was barely any interaction between the parishioners from the various languages. The few people that did mix along, either came from the altar service group, the choirs that sung together on some occasions, or the members of the church youth group. It took me a very long time to actually mingle the way I do now, and that mostly comes out of my experiences with the altar service group, the choirs and the members of the church youth group. I learned to actively use the languages that I had learned over time, from the bits and pieces of conversation that I came across and learned that differences come from personality and not where a person comes from.

When I was thirteen, I discovered the gay pride parades and the drives held towards bettering the lives of the LGBT community in the country, and all over the world. What I also learned, is that the heaven that claimed to open its gates to the people who were good, refuses to let in the people that God created, because they were just not like everyone else. I always believed that being ‘good’, came out of the kindness of your heart and the care that one shows towards another individual. It came out of our need to help the helpless, and take away any pain we came across. But clearly, I was wrong.

A little later, the rape rates in the country went up, there was an increase in the number of murders, Syria broke out in Civil War, and people suffered and died. I didn’t know what the Lord had in store for the world, and I still don’t. People suffered, and it was merely shunned away as God punishing people for their sins. What kind of a God punished women and children with rape? What kind of God punishes people with murder and war? I heard about the predictions for the end of the world, and yet it didn’t end.

I was told that I counted as a Gentile. I wasn’t one of the ‘chosen ones’. I wasn’t from the tribe that constantly rejected the God who gave a mortal to part the Red Sea for them. I wasn’t special, but I was asked to believe anyway. Are we not taken care of because we aren’t the chosen ones?

The world was then blessed with Pope Francis. The first non-European Pope. The first Pope to have a Twitter and Instagram account. He is the first to wash the feet of a group of prisoners on Maundy Thursday, the first to wash the feet of people of all ages and the first to wash the feet of refugees of different races and religions. In terms of what the church has been through and the atrocities it had brought out over the ages, he is the first to actually attempt to make amends. It is also in the same decade, that I am encountered with Principals and teachers, both quite religious, who question a student’s values and culture because she was sitting among a group of boys. Was she doing anything obscene? No. Was she breaking a rule? No. Then why was she condemned?

It wasn’t until my first year in college that I learned of the fact that the gospels weren’t written at the same time. In fact, they were written ages after Christ’s time, decades apart from each other- each adhering to its own theme. It was also the same year that I found out about the fact that almost every ritual we have, came from other religions. For example, the Pentecost was a Jewish feast, on a full moon. We celebrate Easter on the day of the Pentecost when there is a full moon. The church has over two thousand years of problems to amend, with the current Pope is working towards it. And yet, I find people condemning his every move. He washed the feet of refugees who weren’t Christian. Guess who else wasn’t Christian? Every one of the twelve disciples.

Jesus told us that everyone deserves to be treated as one would treat themselves. We don’t do it. And I fear to understand why.

John 3:16: For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.

When I was fifteen, I discovered the church chapel.  It was a place of patience, a place of hope. The warmth of the air in the chapel contrasted with the cold floor, where I sat, a little away from the altar. Somehow, somewhere, I found comfort in the idea of being able to speak to God without a barrier. I was in church- so someone speaking to the air couldn’t possibly be the weirdest thing around.

I never managed to understand the sermons during mass that took on the shape of a public rant, or the telling of jaded jokes with morals that sometimes didn’t have even the remotest resemblance to the readings of the day.

Over time, I realized that I what learned in those hours of silence- things about God, things about myself- they were things I couldn’t have learned or understood anywhere else. When I joined college, I found a similar comfort in the college chapel. It is where I go when I feel lost. Because somehow, in talking to God, or in talking to myself, I find a way out of the pain and troubles I face.

In a church chapel, I feel safe. I’m not exposed, like in the high arches and gargantuan altars of a church. I’m surrounded by architecture as old as the church, but it doesn’t judge me the same. I’m free of the looks I get for a flaw in my outfit, for the way I sometimes falter when I walk. I could burst into tears, and I wouldn’t have people looking at me like I deserve to be in an asylum.

There is a feeling like home in those chapel walls- a feeling of love and care. A feeling that tells me that I have someone near, someone who hears my plea. It is here that I learned that if I really truly asked for something, I would get it. I find a sense of comfort in the unknown. These feelings could be a result of the culture I was raised in, or simply the need to have a higher presence that I could trust in, even when I thought that I have no one.

Over the years, I have come to learn, condemn and admire things about the church. I’m beginning to get a basic understanding of the way things work. I will be eternally grateful to my theology professor from last year because he showed us that religion is an amalgamation of various factors that can sometimes go astray. He showed me, that God is love. Not fear.

I learned that sometimes, there is a set method to things. These methods may be highly disorganized by their very nature, but are maintained for the perceived need of the hour.  Questioning things does help. But in that process of questioning, one must also be willing to find an answer. I still don’t know why we face the troubles we do today. I don’t understand why a God who “so loved the world, that he (us) gave his only Son”, would watch us suffer and punish the innocent with the pain they never deserved in the first place. One could argue, that the degree of suffering could be attributed to how far we’ve come as members of the human race, but the question of the need to cause suffering still remains.

And yet, I find comfort in the idea of a guardian angel watching over me.

Sometimes, I fear for what the answers to my questions would be. But more often than not, I wish that I was shown how beautiful my religion is rather than taught it, in words and excuses I still can’t comprehend. I will always have a much greater respect for the professors and priests who admit that my religion has its flaws, than those who pretend like the flaws don’t exist.

I still haven’t figured religion out, and wish that I was given the time to do so. I also believe that there are many like me who wish they had the opportunity to do the same.

The cries they never heard

I couldn’t contain my joy the first time I heard her voice. My Mother leaped, and immediately felt her hand close to me. “I can’t wait to see you”, she said. Her voice was as warm a blanket and as soft as my skin. I spent most of my days eavesdropping, listening to Daddy talk about work, my brother talk about school and the mean bully who took away his lunch. Daddy told him that he needs to learn to fight for his right and that he should stand up to his bully. He was, after all, Daddy’s little prince. “A prince.” he said, “A Prince must be brave and stand against those who want to harm him. He must never back down. He must, if fact helps those who cannot help themselves, and always stand for what is right.”

My daily routine consisted of numerous naps, swimming to change my position, listening to those who visited mamma and listening to all the things happening around me. “You must read because reading now will make the child and avid reader, an intellectual”, they said. “Play soothing music, eat a lot of fruits and keep yourself healthy. We don’t want anything affecting the baby prince now do we?” They told her of various herbal remedies that could cure her cold, told her to keep herself warm and kept reminding her, that the baby prince must be healthy. Listening to these ‘advisers’ soon became a tedious task. All they did, was speak of what she should eat, what she should drink, when she should sleep, how long she should be sleeping for, what she should be reading, what music she should be listening to and what they think, the new prince to come would expect of her. Not once, did they ask Mamma what she wanted to eat or drink. Not once did they ask her what she wanted to read or listen to. And not once, did they consider the possibility of my being the baby princess.

Then came my grandmother. My brother didn’t like her. She came home, to take care of Mamma during the last few months of her pregnancy. She cooked ‘healthy’ for us, ‘helped’ Mamma move around, bullied my brother and generally made life harder. The one thing he never failed to say, was “For your sake, he better be a boy. My family cannot be disgraced. The fact that your first born was a son does not mean you can bring out disappointment. It only increases our expectations. Besides, the last thing we need is another version of you”. I would never be her Princess.

Most of days followed a rather monotonous tone. Sometimes, Mamma would fall sick and throw up and sometimes, she would ask for the food that I wanted to eat. She threw up every time she ate Chinese food- but that’s because I didn’t like the taste of it. It tasted funny. Mamma and I love Ice cream. And chocolates too!!! We like dark chocolate the most, especially the chocolate called Lindt Lindor it is creamy and strongly flavored, and fills a warm feeling in my body.

On some days, mamma would seem really worried. On those days, Daddy would hold her close and she would fall asleep in his arms. She says, that he is the most amazing man she has ever met. He cares for her, for my grandmother, and for my brother. He gives them everything they need and always put their needs first. Daddy always helped my brother with his homework. He needed a lot of help with math. He hated the subject and couldn’t bear to study it. When Mamma got sick of my grandmother’s ‘healthy’ food, Daddy would sneak in food form her favorite restaurant for her. What I never understood was, however, was why daddy always called me his baby Prince. Wasn’t I his princes?

I was uneasy. I was scared. What if they didn’t like me? What would happen to me?

Mamma could tell something was wrong. She felt my emotions. She was worried too. I loved my mamma. And I knew that she loved me too. I was a part of her after all. Wasn’t I?

Daddy saw that Mamma was worried. He held her in her arms and told her that everything will be okay. Everyone gets a happy ending. Always.

Seeing this world for the first time was not easy. I was met with blinding lights and for some reason, I just couldn’t stop screaming. I was whisked away from my mother’s arms, and given a bath. I yearned to be in her arms, feel the warmth of her embrace.

My mother was restless. When she woke, she constantly asked for me, and once given to her, she never let me out of her sight. My father said he was overjoyed. He said he was proud. My grandmother didn’t come visit me. My mother never asked why.

She was restless when she fell asleep, unhappy about letting me sleep away from her, in the cradle placed at the other end of the room.

After what seems to be a short nap, I felt a pair of strong arms lift me from my cradle. One arm immediately went around my mouth, stopping me from crying out.

I was out in the rain and the pitter patter that seemed soothing a little while ago now rang out in cries of pain.

I felt myself being dropped, the stench of wet cardboard making my nauseous.

I was left out. My father wanted me to fade into oblivion.

4th ‘C’ Cross

When I think of Bangalore, I think of the Bangalore of my childhood. Here, birds chirped in the morning, sparrows sang with the choirs in churches, and pigeons prayed with the Imam, all five times a day. I think of cool weather that let me snuggle against my mamma when it got too cold, in her warm, comfortable love. Vehicles meant Ambassadors belonging to MLA’s speeding up the road, with cops on all sides, Maruthis with a family of eight stuffed inside, with the children sitting on top of each other, and Omnis bringing students from their schools. I think of large houses, with old couples living in them. The ladies would feed the stray dogs, while their husbands tended to their garden. I think of a school that was far, far away, and included traveling a long distance that included going to the military owned forest-like land and passing by the lake where I first saw real lotuses, just like the ones in my textbook, with plants growing by that, were eaten by swimming cows. I never knew then, that the lotuses grew in the muck. The lake is a gated community now.  The old houses are PGs. We have so many vehicles outside, that the smoke doesn’t let me breathe.

 I think of the old house where I lived, “Maruthinagar, Madiwala 4th ‘C’ Cross”, I would diligently say when asked for my address. The door number didn’t matter to me. We were all a family.  I think of a warm little lane, where the houses were close by, and everyone knew everyone.

Mamma would wait for me to come home every evening, and Indira, our maid, would have a warm raggi mudde prepared for me. Sometimes, I’d eat it with chicken curry, sometimes with the more sought-after sugar. I’d run out as soon as I’d done eating and changing, to play on the street with all the kids. Names didn’t matter. There were new children who came and went, and all that mattered was playing. Play time meant a free pass into everyone’s house, meaning that if we looked long and longingly enough, we would be blessed with biscuits and chocolate that we came across in people’s homes.

I remember this one time we played with the daughter of one of the masons constructing a building in the lane. We were fascinated by the sand-sieve, and our fascination with it drew us to befriend her. I think we learned pretty early on, that getting what you wanted, meant having friends in the right places.  She was kind enough to let us touch the sieve, and graciously demonstrated its function, while we watched dumbstruck. After all, it wasn’t every day that you could see what it was like to construct a building. She was generous enough to let us keep the stones left over, but were quickly thrown away when our mothers found them. I slyly managed to save a few of the tiny conch shells from the sand though. If I’d known where they came from, I think I wouldn’t have tried collecting them, out of respect for the dead.

 4th C cross meant playing in the neighbor’s gardens, touching the leaves in the plants, and slyly yanking a few off to get a better look. It was going around with my gang of children; all bigger than me, with me, bring a little ringmaster, searching for touch-me-not(s) to touch. There were enough for everyone at the empty plot at the end of the road. It was here that we had our running races, with distances measured according to our heights.  I had the least to run, and suspect that I still would. Parking was never an issue because we always knew who owned the obstructing vehicle.

We would try feeding the stay dog Vicky but would run away when he got a little too excited with the bones. We would stand in my yellow balcony, throwing bones down at the black road later. Monkeys would often visit us, and steal the tomatoes growing on the terraces and in the gardens. We would run away from them, because of the horrendous tales we heard of monkey bites.

Aunties often sat outside and watched us play. I’d fall on the street, scraping my knees and tearing the pants I owned. It didn’t matter that I got hurt because I would have enough people taking care of me right then, that the pain goes away in minutes. Soon, I’d be ready to play again.

I go there now and see a different place. I’ve never been here before, and I didn’t live here for eight years. When asked for my address, I now throw in the door number, because my new home no longer was the same. I never visited my old one, even though I was two lanes away. Somehow, I felt like I lost the claim I had over it. Now, 4th C cross seems spaced out, empty. Like something was taken away. I don’t see children playing on the street because we’ve all either grown up or because we’ve moved, some of us, not that far away.

 

Biryani down the lane

Often called the ‘Blue Bells Biryani shop’ or the ‘Recharge shop Biryani’, Devaprasad Enterprises never fails to impress. Found in a little nook next to Blue Bells, the women’s hostel, Mr. Devaprasad’s store has been a source of joy to the students of St. Joseph’s College for the past 10 years. Mr. Devaprasad worked as an accountant at Mysore Lamp, a government company, but when it was shut down, he was forced to find another source of income. He opened a stationery store a little inside Akkitimanahalli, but the store wasn’t a success. It was then that he noticed that the students of St. Joseph’s College Shantinagar, often had to resort to eating egg puffs and basic bakery items during their breaks. It was then that he decided to open a store to sell food.  He began with a sandwich shop that sold jam and butter sandwiches, cheese sandwiches, and vegetarian sandwiches too. With a fast increasing demand, his business began blooming, and soon, he received requests for food that would be a little more filling. He then began selling puliogere and lemon rice. Soon, the students began asking for something with a little meat in it, and that was what led to his infamous chicken biryani.

Mr. Devaprasad, a man who had never cooked in his life, decided that he would make chicken biryani. He looked up recipes online, spoke with the people he knew, tried various recipes, using a range of spices in different proportions, making different quantities. Forty times he tried making biryani, and forty times he failed. It was his forty-first attempt that provided a rhythm of sorts to his biryani making and created the recipe that the students love. Numerous people asked him to quit during his trials, but he persevered and after year, he achieved his goal. Mr. Devaprasad and his wife now make about 4 kilograms worth biryani each day. Being the only people involved in the business, they make only the one kind of food, as providing a variety of food would be a difficult task.

“In the beginning, chicken biryani was only 25 rupees, and the egg biryani cost 20 rupees per plate. After that, gradually the prices are going high.” He began selling biryani in the year 2008 and increased his prices by rupees five each year. Now, the chicken biryani is priced at 50 and the egg biryani at 40. Victims of inflation that they are, Mr. and Mrs. Devaprasad continue to make biryani for the students, unable to find it in their hearts to increases their prices to match current times. One of his main aims is to help students because they buy food with their pocket money and have a set allowance.

Mr. Devaprasad often finds students sitting outside his little store as early as 11:30 in the morning, hoping to be first in line for the much-loved biryani. Many of the students eating from here, are from North-East India and are exceedingly fond of it. They even help him in bettering his recipes, he says.

One of the issues he faces is the loss faced on the days that the students have holidays. Unaware, he makes his usual quantity which goes to a waste, as the students are his only customers. “It is not a good business. Because I own I house and my son is earning, I can manage. If I had to run the house with that money it is really a great loss. However, it is moving.” He says.

Having noticed the crowd that rushes for biryani every day, Mr. Devaprasad was also asked to facilitate mobile recharge in his store. Soon after, he was approached with sellers selling Ice creams as well. However, the summer months prove to be a total loss, as his customers are on holiday. Furthermore, the lack of electricity is also a cause of load shedding, which leads to a loss.

One of his most cherished memories, is from the year 2005, during the year he sold sandwiches, that the students of St. Joseph’s presented him with a handmade card, showing him their gratitude. It is a token of appreciation that he still keeps with him. Ex-students still visit him to this day, craving for the biryani that stays close with the memories of their college days.

Just not his pint of beer

Alcohol, as never really been Peter’s shot of whiskey. So, when it comes to getting my darling of a cousin drunk, all it takes is a Breezer, or if he really wants to risk it, a pint of beer. His fifteenth-ish time was during our cousin Melvin’s wedding.

We were fishing by the pond in my aunt’s estate at about ten in the night. The campfire we made didn’t really help with the cold, but it was there all the same. There we were, almost two hours after we started, most of us on our third pints, and Peter still on his first, when Peter suddenly says (his tone oddly serious) “. Zebras have stripes. I like zebras.” This, we could have dismissed if it wasn’t for the second- “Zebras are pretty. This was followed by uncontrollable giggling on his part.

Knowing that he was pretty high, my cousins, being the caring, loving brothers and sisters that they are, decided to give him another pint. I watched, quite suspiciously, as Avi (my brother), had a rather gleeful, pleased and mischievous look in his eyes. Little did I know, that the pint of “beer”. had a shot or two of whiskey in it.

We continued with our little party, cooking the fish we somehow managed to catch. I still remember the taste of the fish, which although filled with bones, in its ginger-garlic, lime and pepper marination tasted amazing. While having our little soiree, the one thing we didn’t notice, is that Peter decided to take a little walk. He was pretty drunk after that second ‘pint’and was giggling uncontrollably. In between this giggling. He gave quite a lot of information about Zebras, always following a form of Japanese whisper. “Zebras live in the wild. Zebras are pretty. Zebras have stripes. I like Zebras. ” he said once. This was soon followed by “Zebras are vegetarians. Zebras live in the wild. Zebras are pretty. Zebras have stripes. I like Zebras.”

Most of broke down, but considering the fact that most of us, now, several pints later, were quite tipsy, this was normal behavior.

So, while on his little walk, supervised by the now drunk Wilma, he landed at the other end of the pond, standing on the pier, with his arms out wide screaming “I’m Superman and I’m going to fly!!!”

We watched, some in horror and some in fascination, as all the boys ran to him, and then jumped into the pond. They swam around, splashed water and eventually got everyone in the pond. We snuck in, at about 3 am the next morning, shivering and half dead.

All of us woke with severe headaches the next day.

Small desires

I couldn’t wait to go back to Mangalore. Mangalore was home to my mother’s mother and my father’s mother.  Mangalore, where the rays of the morning sun caused the beads of sweat one’s body to glisten like diamonds on a platinum necklace.  Mangalore, where tender coconut water poured like the rain, and the roosters crowed while the cows mooed. Mangalore was home.

With a suitcase that was a little too large and smiles that went from jaw to jaw, I prepared myself for the journey. Mamma wasn’t too happy with the size of my suitcase, but I was. After all, I had places to go, people to meet, and good food to eat. I got into the train, ready to stay up all night for our twelve-hour journey.

We reach the next morning, and a cousin of mine comes to pick my brother, mother and me up from the Bantwal railway station. We race home, which is about twenty kilometers away ( or at least, that’s what mamma said to me), and soon, I find my nose tingling to the smell of freshly cut grass, Boiled rice cooking in fires outside various homes, salted fish, and damp mud. And that is how I know I’m home.

As soon as we reach, I run inside to see my grandmother, and with her, I am greeted by the general mob of aunts and cousins. I get kisses, cuddles, and blessings. I look out for my uncles and cousins and find them sitting on the porch, mildly oblivious to their youngest sister coming home. My mother, mildly furious by this, begins to emotionally blackmail them, only for their sons to rescue them, with fresh tender coconuts.

During the days to come, we will attend several baptisms, communions, and engagements. This is one of the perks of belonging to large families. Unlimited, extremely delicious, catered food.

But, it wasn’t the food that I wanted. It was to spend time with Neil. Neil’s family attended most of the events we did. He was tall, smart and warm. When it came to him, I was always greeted with a warm hug that smelled of happiness and chocolate hidden in pockets, just for me.  When with him, my mother would know that I have eaten well, had a good time, and was generally taken care off. I would make my way to him at the beginning of most of the events, and stay with him to the end. Many people in Mangalore gossip about such things, but never about me. I wondered why. Maybe because they knew, that when I would be old enough, we would be married. Days passed, and events went by. No Neil. When I asked my mother where he was, she said that he was a little busy nowadays. What I wanted to know was what could possibly be more important than my being in Mangalore.

And then, I found out. Neil was to be wed to a girl named Samantha. Saying that I was crushed was an underestimation. All that time that we spent together, meant nothing to him. All the games we played, all the secrets we shared, none of it mattered to him. I didn’t want to attend his engagement. I didn’t see why I should. But mother reasoned with me, and I did. I put on a brave face, and fighting the tears, sat through it all. Besides, we were going back home tomorrow, after a month long vacation, and I would ways to distract myself.

Neil was twenty-seven, and I was eleven.

We make the perfect meal

You are tall, coffee and pork steaks with mashed potatoes in the afternoon,

And I’m tiny, wheat and a scoop of chocolate ice cream with freshly baked blondies.